Sometimes when I pick up a new book and realize it’s been mislabeled, I just want to throw it across the room. I know it's not that much of a big deal to some readers but it really ticks me off since it always ends with me wasting my time with a book that's mislabeled. And because of this, what really gets under my skin is when every romantic setup with more than two people is slapped with the love triangle. And even still, when it's actually three people it's not a love triangle because the dynamic is used poorly or incorrectly and it ends up having a completely new trope!
What are Love Triangles Really?
Love triangles, as the name suggests, is three people in love, what everyone misses usually that all three of them are mutually in love. This means that no it's not a love triangle if two of the characters are competing for the third character or when two of the characters are sworn rivals and have ZERO chemistry with anyone else besides the main person. They don't necessarily have to love each other equally but the thing is, it's a love triangle, love should come from all three points, or it could flow from A liking B, to B liking C, and C liking A. It should always make a triangle, hence the name Love Triangle
Why are Love Triangles so misused then?
It boils down to misuse of terminology, because netizens and writers have stretched the terminology to the point where it lost its meaning and became something else. Love triangles have been slapped onto tropes that don't follow its name at all, and it really misleads the reader.
So which tropes get called love triangles the most, even when they aren’t?
If you're in a fandom or writing space, you'd notice these tropes being labeled as love triangles but you might not know their actual names:
Love Corners
I feel like love corners are the MOST to be mislabeled. It gets mislabeled because it sometimes only involves three people, two of the characters are both pining after the same person, effectively cornering them. This dynamic is when two or more love interests chase a single character for their love, not creating a triangle.
Poly Dynamics
Technically poly dynamics can come from a love triangle but it's not exclusive to it, it can be four or even five people being entangled with each other!
Romantic False Leads
A romantic false lead is a character who seems like a potential love interest for a character but ultimately isn’t the person the character ends up with. Their role is usually to create tension, misdirection, or emotional stakes for entertainment purposes, not to form a true triangle.
Unrequited Love Chains
An unrequited love chain is a pattern of romantic feelings where one character likes another, who likes someone else, and so on which makes a chain. The tension comes from the unreciprocated feelings, not from a three-person love triangle.
And these are just some examples, but they get frequently mislabeled nonetheless.
Why do I care so much?
I care because mislabeling wastes everyones time. Since I started to get into my first fandoms I've always seen misleading labels and false dynamics, and it wasn't till later that I found out that they were used incorrectly. And as someone who spends hours reading and discussing fanfiction and books, mislabeling love triangles makes it hard to follow a story or even discuss it accurately.
I'm not doing this to police anyone's taste, not everyone is going to agree and if this doesn’t bug you as much as it bugs me, carry on and happy reading!